I specialized in working with ambitious professionals, free spirited creatives and feminists entrepreneurs who want engaging careers and pleasureful -nourishing relationships while being able to nurture their families (if they choose to have one). They realize following this feminine code of conduct being forced upon them is the reason they feel so unhappy in a life they should love.
Let me guess! always trying to do what is expected of you is leaving you feeling like a shell of a person?
You are not alone.
The same is true for so many women. Myself included.
And it’s not your fault.
With all this pressure to conform to the feminine code of conduct – the idea that women are powerless, shouldn’t be seen not heard & can’t be trusted to make big life decisions by themselves without getting ostracized – it’s no wonder that smart, capable, fiery women like yourself are feeling trapped.
In fact I believe, this feminine code of conduct is chaining women up in what I’ve named the Happiness Trap.
The Happiness Trap gives you the illusion of a fulfilled life – But, deep inside, you’re frustrated and tired with the direction your life is going.
Inside you’re struggling with :
– Saying “yes” when you really want to say “no” or worst saying “no” when you secretly want to say yes.
– Asking for support & prioritize yourself and your needs.
– Daydreaming about the life you’d rather have then dealing with the real life you’ve got
– Making yourself seem “small” so others can feel better about themselves.
– Hating yourself for worrying so much about what other people think of you (I’ve been there)
That’s what I created this space for.
To helping you define who you are, explore and figure out what you want (and not what you think you should want) so you can unhook from the happiness trap and get the confidence to live according to your own truth, wisdom, and knowing.
The Happiness Trap shows up in 4 sneaky ways:
- Martyrdom : I have to do it all . I shouldn’t ask for help (let’s sacrifice our self-care and pleasure)
- Obedience : They know better than I do. It’s easier if I just do what I’m told. I seek for approval (let’s silence our sovereignty and wisdom)
- Diminishment: I’m responsible for other people’s happiness. I don’t want to hurt their feelings (let’s ignore our brilliance and joy)
- Masks: I can never be and do enough (let’s deny our uniqueness, authenticity and humanity).
The thing is, because those stories are echoed and validated everyday trough people we love and trust – we’ve never stopped to consider wether they are working for us.
And that’s why they are more harmful.
But, when we join forces, together we can change the narrative.
The things I believe
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What Others Say
Vanessa lives her program. She has broken down the how-to surrounding embodiment so that all you have to do is show up for the ride. It was an empowering program led by a welcoming teacher.
Thank you for the wonderful class, Vanessa. I tend to not share in groups while I am working through important things, so I appreciate the freedom to work alone during this class. I would like to share with you, though–the practices and journaling that you gave us have exposed tensions in my body that have been with me since early childhood. Memories have surfaced that I didn’t realize were still lingering, causing my body to live in a constant state of “bracing for impact”. I feel like this class has initiated a period of reconnection and healing at a level I didn’t know I needed, and even though pain is surfacing, you have made it a joyful and beautiful experience. Thank you. You are a wonderful teacher and guide and I am grateful to be connected with you.