Become the woman you want to be

WITHOUT BEING SOAKED UP BY THE WORLD’S EXPECTATIONS OF YOU

 

Hey I’m Vanessa Mentor!

I’m a freedom catalyst and I help women build a life centered on their own truth, wisdom and knowing.

I specialize in working with ambitious professional women, free spirited creatives, feminists entrepreneurs, who want to engage in their career, take care of their family, have relationships they want, without complying to the feminine code of conduct and getting diverted by the Happiness Trap.

 

 

Here’s what I know about you

 

You are restless and experiencing a continuous discomfort by trying to be the perfect wife, the perfect mom, the perfect friend, the perfect employee, the perfect woman.

 

And I want you to know that it’s not your fault and you are not alone.

 

This is my story and the story of many women.

 

You are pressured to conform to the feminine code of conduct

In essence, it’s this idea that women are powerless and not trustworthy of making the best choices for their lives, unless they make space for the world’s demands and rules.

I believe the feminine code of conduct leads to what I call the happiness trap.

 

The Happiness Trap is the tension that arises when you are ready to take decisions and make choices based on what works for you instead of what society expects of you.

 

The happiness trap manifests itself in the life of many women trough four  unhelpful stories:

  1. Martyrdom (Let’s sacrifice our pleasure),
  2. Obedience (Let’s sacrifice our sovereignty),
  3. Diminishment (Let’s ignore our brilliance and joy)
  4. Masks ( Let’s deny our truth and humanity).

 

The thing is, because those stories are echoed and validated everyday trough people we love and trust – we’ve never stopped to consider wether they are working for us. 

And that’s why they are more harmful.

 

The Happiness Trap is giving you the illusion of a fulfilled life – But, deep inside : 

 

You are dissatisfied with the direction your life is going and there aren’t many people who are ready to help you come back and make peace with the truth that I know deep inside you are struggling with :

 

Maybe it’s difficult for you to ask for what you want & prioritize yourself.

or perhaps you find it hard to embrace your gift and live your full potential.

And it could be that you wrestle to accept all of who you are and that your best is enough.

Or you might find it hard to trust your decisions and choices – and tend to seek external validation.

That’s what I create space for. I do that  by helping you define who you are, explore and name what you want (and not what you think you should want) so you can progressively unhook from the happiness strap and get the confidence to live according to your own truth, wisdom, and knowing.

 

Because what you truly want is the freedom to choose how you relate to your body, how you communicate your desires and needs, how you engage in sex, how you show up in your parenting , how you lead.

The things I believe 

 

1

Your story is part of your legacy

Live the story you want to tell.

2

True freedom is letting yourself be who you are

At various moments of your life, you’ll stop because of the stories of your past. While those stories could be true…there could be other stories yet untold.

Your responsibility is to decide who you really are and what other stories you truly want to tell about yourself.

 

 

3

Our body is an important part of life

I believe that the body holds our life stories and those that are yet to be told. Our relationship with our body informs how we relate to the earth and the people around us.

4

Real collective change can’t happen until we heal individually. 

Because for centuries women have been deprived of their right to develop a healthy and conscious relationship with their body, and sexuality, I believe this is where we need to heal the most and write a new story.

4

The most important kind of love is action

There’s always going to be something that makes you doubt who you are and give you the illusion that you don’t love yourself. And in those moments you’ll start turning around and over analyzing; thinking ” you are the problem”

When in fact, you only need to take a tiny step and keep walking toward what you want and who you are.

 

5

I stand for Embodied wisdom &Truth telling 

You carry in your body and psyche the answers to most of life’s questions and challenges. Practice connecting and listening to that wisdom.

If you want to start living unrestrained, the first step is choosing and telling the truth ( to yourself and others).

6

Living Unrestrained is not an easy path

Because most of us have learned to fear who we are and what we truly desire, choosing to live life in the light of our own wisdom can feel threatening to ourselves and people around us.  

Taking on that journey requires that you show up every day for yourself trough a practice.

 More of my story

 

Discover the unhelpful story keeping you from living the life you want

Take the living unrestrained quiz and get your detailed report to start creating the change you need.

What Others Say

Vanessa lives her program. She has broken down the how-to surrounding embodiment so that all you have to do is show up for the ride. It was an empowering program led by a welcoming teacher.

Dimitra Stathopoulos

Thank you for the wonderful class, Vanessa. I tend to not share in groups while I am working through important things, so I appreciate the freedom to work alone during this class. I would like to share  with you, though–the practices and journaling that you gave us have exposed tensions in my body that have been with me since early childhood. Memories have surfaced that I didn’t realize were still lingering, causing my body to live in a constant state of “bracing for impact”. I feel like this class has initiated a period of reconnection and healing at a level I didn’t know I needed, and even though pain is surfacing, you have made it a joyful and beautiful experience. Thank you. You are a wonderful teacher and guide and I am grateful to be connected with you.

James- Olivia Chu Hillman

Integrative life, leadership, and relationship coach, https://inquisitivehuman.com

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