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For  Moms  Who  Tend  to Over-Give  and People-Please :

Give Yourself The Same Care and Love

You extend to your loved ones

 because caring for your family + friends without leaving space for yourself is not sustainable and won’t bring you more joy.

You can never relax and most  days  you feel like   you’re  failing.

You have one million things to do. Now you’re at home, now you’re making dinner. Now you’re cleaning up. Now it’s the kids’ bedtime. Now it’s your bedtime.

 Oops! Sorry, you didn’t have any time for you.

You’re constantly worrying   about getting in trouble,  losing them,  and asking  yourself   : What if  my family needs me and can’t do things for themselves?

I hear you.

You are not alone.
The same  is true for so many  moms. Myself included.

And it’s not your fault ! 

In my work with women, I see clearly how in the act of caring for others, women get triggered and fall into a pattern of self-neglect. Also, the feminine code of conduct around our role as nurturers and caregivers is so strong, It’s no surprise that meeting your needs and the expectations of others clash.

In   fact,  I believe this feminine code of conduct is chaining women up in what I’ve named the Happiness Trap. 

 The Happiness Trap gives you the illusion of a fulfilled  and nourished life – but indeed perpetuates the idea that prioritizing  yourself, deprives someone else of something which leaves you feeling exhausted, stressed, and tired all  the time.

But it doesn’t have to be that way!

Instead you can learn how to  stay nourished  without   giving up on your other responsibilities.

nd nd I know it isn’t easy to prioritize yourself

when a million little scripts written daily about who you are, what your place is and what your life should be as a mom and WOMAN.

 You see, 5 years, I met a successful divorced man that, right off the bat, my gut  told me was not the right person for me. I was 35. Most of my friends were married and I felt pressured to check that box.

Although, that nagging feeling in my heart wouldn’t leave, I tried to rationalize why I had to make it work.I stayed and as weeks turned into months, things got worse.

The guy was an abusive narcissist cow.

The problem? Obedience and People-Pleasing and I was scared to be ALONE.

It was killing me but it gave me a sense of “I have my sh*t together”,   until he slapped me in the face. The penny dropped.

After years of wrong relationships, twisting my personality to appear perfect and  be loved, I had this moment of clarity, in which I realized  that my worth came from within and not from what I was doing and being for other people.

And at this point, I stopped  pouring so  much into others   at the expense of   my emotional and physical  well-being.

I started to slowly give myself space and time to love and care for myself as much as I was loving and caring for others.

I started  to live  Unrestrained

And,that’s what my work is designed to help you with ! 

I can show you the foundational steps  to  love  without people-pleasing and  over-giving  ( even if  it scares  the crap out of you of haven’t got clue how to do this).

Basically,  I will help you create daily   and weekly small pockets of  nurturing moments   that  will allow   to feel like yourself as a human again. As opposed to just you in relation to all the other people and responsibilities in you life.

 The Happiness Trap gives you the illusion of a fulfilled  and nourished life – but indeed perpetuates the idea that prioritizing  yourself, deprives someone else of something which leaves you feeling exhausted, stressed, and tired all  the time.

HELLO THERE, I’M VANESSA

 

I’m a mom and  my gift is helping moms who tend to over-give and people-please (in the name of service and love) re-learn how to advocate for their needs, set healthy boundaries and nurture themselves.

I specialized in working with ambitious professionals  and feminists   entrepreneurs    who want engaging careers and pleasurable -nourishing relationships while being able to nurture their families .

But what I truly help you with is staying connected to who you truly are and creating a life that matches your truth, values, knowing and wisdom.

Before going full time as a life coach, I’ve worked for 17 years in the banking industry supporting and coaching branch managers in their role.

HOW I CAN HELP

 

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And that's why I've created

Living Unrestrained

The path for burnt out working moms who want to reclaim their identity, have more capacity for self-care and feel like human again.

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